Following yesterday’s post, I intended to offer some humorous reflections about “toxic masculinity.” Instead, I’m sharing part of our daughter’s update about our son-in-law Michael’s excellent recovery from lung transplant surgery. They’re temporarily in an apartment near the hospital and take daily prescribed walks at various public parks. Her otherwise upbeat report to family and friends included the sad reflection below:
Aggressive & rude behavior. Michael and I are sick and tired of the verbal assaults we are receiving for wearing our masks in public. It happens almost daily. It’s happening in Birmingham, Mountain Brook, Homewood and all over. Our decision to wear a mask does not in any way harm or affect anyone else in society. However, the amount of people that feel the need to confront us over it is sickening!
We are doing this for his health and mine and for those around us. I do not want to get on a soap box and preach but Michael’s life is literally at stake. I realize that some people disagree with the science & the public health officials and are choosing to not wear masks or keep a proper social distance. That is their choice. But, Michael and I should not be subjected to aggressive behaviors just because those people in society choose to not wear a mask.
We have been flipped off, walked into, glared at, confronted and had numerous sarcastic and aggressive things said to us — all because we were wearing masks. Michael and I may not look like we are part of the vulnerable population but we both are. And, I know many of you reading this are too or have someone close to you that is. None of us should have to accept aggressive behavior over the choice to protect ourselves & our community. Again, it’s not just because Michael had surgery but because his life-long medications cause him to have a non-existent immune system. The common cold could put Michael in the hospital & Covid19 would definitely kill him.
I truly hope people will start thinking of their actions when they venture out in public. Just because the viruses are invisible and just because many people’s diseases and disorders are invisible does not give anyone the right to confront and abuse people wearing masks. I can’t even believe we’re having to deal with this issue at all!! It has given us both a lot of unnecessary anxiety. It started off gradual but it seems each week the level of confrontation and aggression is worsening. It frightens me because there is no need for it.
Yesterday, when I asked Lindy if I could share her experience, she replied: I was unsure of sending my rant but Michael wanted me to. We’ve actually had some nice walks without incident in downtown Birmingham the last two days but the negative ones definitely impact us more.